The Art of Intimacy

When we meet life where it is, there is a resonance where we vibrate in tune with the life force and not against it. 

Intro

Being in pitch perfect response with life brings us into our true nature, an ever-dynamic identity that can afford to meet life on life’s terms. Without attachment to ideas of self. Without holding onto past identities. Without going into shame or guilt for operating in ways that are socially inappropriate. By losing our own substance we gain the only substance that gives us substance, a seed containing infinite possibility.

We resonate with the frequency of life and let go of the resistance that causes discord. Trying to make life different from what it is means we are placing conditions on what is external to us, instead of trying to find that vibrational match to tune into what is within us, and then see it manifest in the outer world.

Reading – Real Power is Meeting Life in Pitch Perfect Response 

Real power is the power to become anything in pitch perfect response, and being in pitch perfect response brings us into our true nature, an ever-dynamic identity that can afford to meet life on life’s terms. Without attachment to ideas of self. Without holding onto past identities. Without going into shame or guilt for operating in ways that are socially inappropriate. By losing our own substance we gain the only substance that gives us substance, a seed containing infinite possibility.

We judge and dismiss power easily because we do not notice when we’re looking right at it. So long as we are not using it to get something, the greatest power we can have is to become what someone wants us to be. Power is always evolving when we live in the dynamic and malleable identity that will present however it is perceived, without impediment, exactly how it is wanted and desired. Intentional conformity to what our environment is asking is a signifier not of weakness but of wealth. It may look like weakness, but conformity when executed consciously represents massive power. This power, greater than any one individual, calls each of our greater selves forth through one another, asking us to transcend and evolve by becoming what each of us is seeking.

Meditation –

A walking meditation where you change direction every time you have the intuition to, not following the usual route

Go somewhere where you have lots of room to walk around.  Ideally, somewhere with wide open spaces.  An outdoor meadow or park should work great, but are not required.  Adapt to where you are.

Start walking in any direction which is safe to do so.  Do not have any destination in mind.  Every time you have an inclination to change direction, do so.  If intuition says turn right, turn right.  If intuition says reverse course, turn 180 degrees and retrace where you just walked.  Continue to change direction every time you have an inclination to do so.  Keep enough ambient attention on your environment to keep you safe, so you do not trip on an obstacle or walk into the path of a vehicle.  Keep your remaining attention on your intuition and notice where it takes you. 

You can journal on your insights afterwards, noticing how it felt to go with the flow of intuition instead of forcing something to happen.

Exercise

Take yourself on a date. Schedule a day in your calendar and stick to it. Think about what kind of meal you would like, how many courses and what you would like for each course. Create your shopping list and take yourself shopping, or maybe order online and have it delivered. Think about what you are going to wear, the music you are going to listen to and how you want to feel. Ensure you have no distractions, turn screens off. Make dinner for yourself, make it extra special. Put your music on, dance. Feel yourself and your body. Let your environment move you, let the energy of the day move you, let your emotions flow freely. This is about doing what you want and what brings you pleasure and joy. Before you sleep, journal about your evening. What did you notice? What delighted you? Did anything surprise you? Did you find it challenging to treat yourself the way you would treat someone special you were on a real date with? 

Example

I used to hate parties, still do for the most part, but many years ago I would attend them almost as a practice. A social practice where I would be forced to confront my shyness and tendency toward introversion, and bring out other parts of myself. Of course this was often bolstered heavily with alcohol, but not always. I recall a night at a party in a big apartment in San Francisco. It was actually one of those old Victorian houses that had been split into apartments. I was so on my game that night! Some things had been going right in my life and I was feeling like a happy and successful person who could take on the world. That night, I spoke to everyone at the party. I didn’t even have to use alcohol to lubricate my passage through the social canals. I would turn from one person to the next, and become a slightly different person with each of them. Not like a sociopath or whatever it’s called, but just… someone who had a mighty flexibility and range of character. How funny I always thought I was on the inside was finally expressed on the outside. I was meeting someone in their down, then meeting someone else in their boisterous up, then meeting another person in their networking vibe, then another in flirtation. It made me realize how much I have in here, how many parts of me there really are, and how few I typically bring out and actually express. 

Chasing after is exhausting. Sitting still is stifling. Life will meet us where we are at, at the pace we are moving, if we just relax and go with the flow.

Summary

You learned that when you are a vibrational match for what is, life meets you where you are at and you meet life where it is at, with no resistance or judgment. You treated yourself to something that brought you into resonance with the fullness of life, and now understand that you possess the flexibility and capability to adapt your vibe to any situation you encounter. This will serve you for the next lesson on finding “the spot.”